What does it mean to love yourself, or be yourself?

It means being fully loved and loving, and willing to open to it
It means taking ‘Its not you, but me’ by the neck and owning it as truth and personal responsibility.
It means more than self confidence, it’s more than strength or resilience, it’s more than capabilities.
It means freedom, peace, choice and a fullness not to be found elsewhere.
It means accepting, seeing, proud, powerful, vulnerable, discerning, curious, joyful.
It means being the very special you.

What does it mean to you?

Somewhere deep down you know when you’re selling yourself short. You pretend it isn’t so.

You don’t like seeing it in yourself, so it shows up to remind you in other ways, doesn’t it? It shows up in those around you, in their behaviour, their attitudes, how they speak to you, how they treat others. It makes you flinch, react and it affects how you feel, even whether you feel.

Your relationships reflect exactly what’s going on inside you. Your relationships with your family, partners, friends. Relationships with things – money, possessions, health, weight, shopping, work, creativity.

What is it that defines you as a person? What if that could change?

The relationship you have with yourself is the only constant in a life full of cycles and transience. You need only look at nature to find the truth in change and cycles. If it’s good enough for nature, it’s good enough for us!

Often what we feel defines us is stuff we’ve made up as being important to our very existence and being.

What if you had nothing, no home, no work, no family responsibilities. Who is it that is left?
Say you knew you were unquestionably safe and cared for, who are you?
Who are you without the experiences you’ve had in life?
Just imagine you were seen for who you are, who is that person?
Who is reading this and wondering when they can come out to play, what question do they want to be asked?

Where do you feel love is lacking in your life? Love can be hard to find, but it’s sitting there waiting for you to see it, right under your nose and down about a foot (depends how tall you are!). You might have to burst some protective bubbles to feel it fully.

Those protective bubbles come from feelings of:

shame
fear
resentment
inadequacy
worthlessness
hurt

The 2012 Be Yourself Love Yourself Course will guide you through a series of steps, for 4 weeks. At the end of the 4 weeks you will:

Know how to love yourself

Know how to be yourself

Know who you are

Each week, we will come together in a group call to set the scene for the coming week. After the call, you will receive an email with exercises, prompts, visualisations and tools for that week’s tasking.

I use a time tested and proven sequence to not only uncover, but find resolution and grow from, any emotional blocks in your path.

The programme gave me permission to be me and not pretend to be another person or try and take on their characteristics.

It was a wonderful course to do and especially day 3. It brought so many things up that needed to be cleared. It was a tough exercise but golly it worked. I think everybody should do that exercise. It was interesting when I mentioned it to some people their reactions made me smile. You could see the look of horror as if why would anyone want to rake the past up! They thought it was wiser to keep the lid on the box. I so see now that it is much better to face “the box” and all the demons, because it means they don’t keep popping up being delivered by my ego. Painful to go through sometimes, but the breathing exercises helped.” HW

As a direct result of the programme I have lost the ‘ well I’ve done my bit, now you deliver’. I have recognised that it is our vulnerabilities that are causing the issues and to move forward I want to show that I am vulnerable and ask my partner for his help.

Our communication is better and I can recognise when my own vulnerability might be causing a problem and I change the situation. EL

What can I say! It has been the most amazing, emotional, astounding & inspirational thing i have done in my life for many a long day.

You have given me the tools to unravel myself, and put myself back together in a way that I can work with. A way that has allowed me to look at me & my life through wide open eyes & to at long, long last understand.

So much has changed in my life in these weeks because of this that I can hardly believe it. New doors & pathways have opened and I feel like a brand new person. Positive, stronger, and much more grounded & relaxed. You have given me the tools to find strength & courage & self belief & so very much more. Wow!

Thank you from the very bottom of my heart dear faerie godmother x x GW

More Information

I really think that this is the only relationship course we need Seriously, when it comes down to it, you can learn about communicating with others, you can learn about how to make love, you can learn about a million other ways to have a great relationship … each of them depend on you showing up as yourself and being open to being loved.

To make this a year you will remember, the year you showed up for yourself as yourself, you’ll want to know exactly what’s included.

This is how it works and what’s included

Starting on 13th February, and the following 3 Mondays (20th, 27th, 5th), there will be a group call (recorded in case you miss it).
A weekly email with exercises for you to become aware of what parts are hiding, acknowledging then releasing the issues and putting in place new patterns
Invitation to a closed Facebook group where the spirit of encouragement and support will be primary
A one hour session with me to be taken during the 4 week period

Until this week, I wasn’t going to include the coaching session in the course, but I thought heck, I really want this to make the biggest difference to your lives, I want you shouting from the rooftops in glee and if you’re going to do that, I’m going to go the extra mile.